to have or not to have

sometimes i think that having more does not equal to having more happiness. in fact, having more only creates chances for losing more, so the rich tend to hoard and hoard, of course there are others who are beyond generous (or mayb they have no idea how much effort is put in to earn the excesses that they now have, i'm not sure)
but i for one am quite irrational when it comes to losing my hard earned possessions (or not so many, since i'm really stingy, haha!)thats y i would prefer not to bring any unneccessary valuables overseas as much as possible, however, i'm made to break this rule of mine, because i need to consider for others.
yes, consider for others... sometimes i wonder do we live for others or for ourselves? or mayb is just a delicate balance btw the two, since no man is an island.
or mayb imagine the chaos if we all lived according to our every wish and whim... alas! however swinging to the extreme end, too much consideration for others just means depending ur happiness on others, you do what they want you to do and then when they are happy they show some appreciation, when they are not, they make life pretty miserable for u...
so... how do u make it all balance, that's the million dollar question, and perhaps something that people spend all their lives trying to find out.